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Behind The Smile

February 17, 2020
Smile

“It’s not always the tears that measure the pain. Sometimes it’s the smile we fake”.

Most people will have heard by now of the tragic death of Caroline Flack ♥️ the woman who seemed to have the perfect life and the brightest smile. We seem to assume that if someone appears happy on the surface and especially on social media, then all must be ok.

It’s so very easy to hide behind a smile, a smile is easy to fake. When people ask, “how are you”, the simplest reply is “ok thank you”. How many of us have done this, when inside we are really holding back the tears? Through my time of having severe anxiety and panic attacks in the past, I have felt that desperation and wondering of how I can go on when I was having several distressing panic attacks daily and then again when I was diagnosed with Stargardts. Without support, which thankfully I had, I can honestly see how things could get too much for someone to bear and how the darkness can take over your thoughts.

Be Kind Text Quote
Be Kind Text Quote

I don’t know what’s happened to society of late, but when someone in the public eye appears vulnerable or makes a mistake like the rest of us do every day, the British media and trolls seem to attack that Person relentlessly. People forget they are a real human being, who has feelings, hopes and dreams, and when someone is feeling vulnerable, those vicious words day in and day out can destroy any ounce of self-worth they ever had.

The sad fact is most of these trolls are brave because they sit behind a keyboard and I guarantee the majority would not say anything to that person they are hounding in real life. I am not a celebrity, but some of the things I have had said to me on social media about my vision loss, is awful, but luckily I am in a good place and I just let it go, but I think these people need to be held accountable for their actions.

The British media also need to take a long, hard look at the way they report and the whole innocent until proven guilty needs to be put into practice and details need to be kept private until someone is charged for their mistake.

My point of this post is just to remind people that kindness really is everything. If you have nothing nice to say, just say nothing at all. Spreading hate and sadness is such a waste of time and can have catastrophic consequences. If you are trolling people because you are unhappy in your own life, please seek help because this behaviour is destructive, and it costs lives. A reminder to everyone else is when you ask a friend how they are and they reply, “Ok thank you”, ask them again and see how they are truly feeling, you may be surprised at their answer ♥️.

For anyone who may need some support x

*Samaritans charity – https://www.samaritans.org

Mind – https://www.mind.org.uk

Anxiety U.K. – https://www.anxietyuk.org.uk

SANE – http://www.sane.org.uk

Travel

Croatia

September 1, 2018
rovinj, croatia

I had wanted to visit Croatia about 15 years ago. I remember going into the travel agents when I was 18 and the lady had no clue what I was on about and had never heard of it, so after that I ended up in Cyprus.

After my diagnosis and thinking of places I would really like to see whilst my vision was still good enough, I got on the internet and started looking up beautiful places. Croatia came up and my memories of how desperate I had been to go, all came back to me. It was only a two-hour flight too, so we booked it.

 

rabac, croatia 2018

Croatia was a visual delight! The landscape was so pretty, and the water was crystal clear and blue, you could stand deep in the sea and still be able to watch the fish swimming at the bottom. We hired a car one day and my husband drove me to Rovinj, an amazing town in Croatia, it reminded me of Malcesine in Lake Garda, it was stunning. It had quirky little shops on cobbled streets with amazing colourful buildings that were sat right on the sea. We also hired a little boat on another day and drove all around the coast and into the little coves, it was stunning.

 

happy me, Croatia 2018

When we got home, and I was looking at all our memories in pictures, I noticed one from the day of our boat trip where I am swimming in the sea. I noticed that it was a completely genuine and happy smile, I haven’t seen that smile much, if at all in pictures over the last year after I found out about my Stargardts, and although I felt sad about that, I was so grateful that I had that moment in Croatia and for a while all my fears and worries had disappeared, even for a few seconds 💙 that’s what holidays are for after all. x

 

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